Sometimes I just want to scream my head off or give up on everything I’ve worked so hard to obtain - then I think “life could be worse right?”. In our social media filled lives people think life is shitty if it’s not picture perfect just like the amazing Instagram feeds you see every day. People have the expectation that life is supposed to be like a fantasy when ideally 90% of the time it never goes as you planned.
You can plan goals, which is okay, but they don’t always go exactly as planned. When some small inconvenience happens we instantly going to a phase where we feel sorry for ourselves until that little Voice in your head tells you to boss up and you better. But when things like this happen I instantly think to myself again that things could be worse. I mean just the ability to wake up this morning that’s a blessing in itself. There are the things that we take for granted that we think are small which are really the biggest part of our lives. Being able to talk and communicate or to just live life period is a blessing in itself - that people often don’t even realize.
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Take the time to reflect on all the amazing things that are in your life rather than the negative. Separate the pros and cons and if you come across anything that is negatively impacting your life when you figure out what the cons are, then make a plan to eliminate them somehow or to better your situation. You’ll soon realize - it’s just a shitty day, not a bad life.
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Imagine being so untuned with yourself that you find positivity and beauty in every day life. There is truly beauty in everything when you are keen on making sure that your happiness comes first. Feeling or mindset? Or a mindset that becomes a good feeling? Whatever you think you can be, manifest it. Let the atmosphere do it’s work.
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When I first started my blog, let alone my Instagram page, the thought of someone being an Influencer or even having that title was unheard of. The word influencer has become a job title much like your local doctor or butcher. These are the people who encourage you to wear that new trend, buy that cool beauty product or spend all your coins on the ideal lifestyle. Like many things in the world, these people can have both a positive and negative effect on how people experience their own lives.
I know everyone has seen a celebrity or top Instagrammer post something or had an experience that you wish you could be living. It can either push harder for that one day or make you feel bad that you aren’t on that level. Sometimes the things that social media shows can make you lose sight of who you truly are. You know that saying, “Life you stand for nothing, you’ll fall for anything.”
If you notice many people, even top influencers, take breaks from social media from time to time and even unfollow people who make them feel a bit down about their lives. I won’t be ashamed to tell you I’ve been there! Although I use my platform to spread all the good vibes, there have been times when I’ve gotten so bored of everyone looking exactly the same and wondered if I was doing something wrong. Social media can be a scary place but it can also be a place that will help gain so much knowledge, express yourself and build genuine connections.
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Season wardrobe transitions are always so fun to me! Co-ord sets are always good when going into the summer season.
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Coming from a little island, I feel like as a creative, you have to work 10x harder to get recognition from the world. My home is filled with some of the most stylish people on the planet (apart from Asians, we know they are the og’s of fashion) and I don’t mean in a trendy way, I mean unique, personal style. While touring the land of pink sand beaches you’ll notice it’s mixed print, bright color wearing natives.
Because I live in London, I am exposed to so many walks of life that come with their own sense of style. I love the timeless but retro looks I pass on the streets everyday. To go from city life to the subtropics, it’s the best of both worlds.
I had the pleasure of covering Street Lux’s Life’s A Label fashion show, which showcased three amazing designers who are killing the game in Bermuda.
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In all my years, I’ve never actually thought about if I’m too far or too behind of my time. It’s only until I turned 25 last month that I’ve been constantly thinking about my future. Your mid-twenties are by far the weirdest times of your life. Some of my friends have families, others are married, some have successful businesses and are doing amazing things in the community, and some are, of course, still doing the same things we used to do back in high school. What an odd time to be alive.
I know I’ve accomplished a lot for my age and 18 year old me would be screaming with excitement at this point but I still have the feeling that time is ticking and I need to get on with everything! For the past three weeks I’ve been thinking more about what I need to do rather than what I’ve already done. It’s been a constant battle between - How old will I be when I have kids? I don’t want to be an old mom. When will I get married? But I want to travel more before I create a family. Where will I find time to do all this AND have a fashion business? When I going to fully be emerged into my career? Oh the anxiety.
In a world full of different opinions and a constant reminder of what everyone else is doing (social media), it’s easy to get discouraged about your own journey. It doesn’t matter if you have everything together because the illusion of a perfect life doesn’t exist. I was trying to give myself a scheduled time for all these events that are supposed to come naturally, simply because of what I saw others experiencing around me. Once I calmed down, I realized that you really have to just sit back and trust the process. Everything happens for a reason and when the time comes, it will come. What you think you’re ready for now, you may not be and that’s exactly why it hasn’t happened yet. Ideally, nobody is ahead or behind anyone when it comes to life. Everyone’s different and where we are right now is exactly where we’re supposed to be at that given time, don’t question it.