When I first started my blog, let alone my Instagram page, the thought of someone being an Influencer or even having that title was unheard of. The word influencer has become a job title much like your local doctor or butcher. These are the people who encourage you to wear that new trend, buy that cool beauty product or spend all your coins on the ideal lifestyle. Like many things in the world, these people can have both a positive and negative effect on how people experience their own lives.
I know everyone has seen a celebrity or top Instagrammer post something or had an experience that you wish you could be living. It can either push harder for that one day or make you feel bad that you aren’t on that level. Sometimes the things that social media shows can make you lose sight of who you truly are. You know that saying, “Life you stand for nothing, you’ll fall for anything.”
If you notice many people, even top influencers, take breaks from social media from time to time and even unfollow people who make them feel a bit down about their lives. I won’t be ashamed to tell you I’ve been there! Although I use my platform to spread all the good vibes, there have been times when I’ve gotten so bored of everyone looking exactly the same and wondered if I was doing something wrong. Social media can be a scary place but it can also be a place that will help gain so much knowledge, express yourself and build genuine connections.
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Season wardrobe transitions are always so fun to me! Co-ord sets are always good when going into the summer season.
Two-Piece Set @femmeluxefinery
Coming from a little island, I feel like as a creative, you have to work 10x harder to get recognition from the world. My home is filled with some of the most stylish people on the planet (apart from Asians, we know they are the og’s of fashion) and I don’t mean in a trendy way, I mean unique, personal style. While touring the land of pink sand beaches you’ll notice it’s mixed print, bright color wearing natives.
Because I live in London, I am exposed to so many walks of life that come with their own sense of style. I love the timeless but retro looks I pass on the streets everyday. To go from city life to the subtropics, it’s the best of both worlds.
I had the pleasure of covering Street Lux’s Life’s A Label fashion show, which showcased three amazing designers who are killing the game in Bermuda.
ONES TO WATCH : BERMUDA
In all my years, I’ve never actually thought about if I’m too far or too behind of my time. It’s only until I turned 25 last month that I’ve been constantly thinking about my future. Your mid-twenties are by far the weirdest times of your life. Some of my friends have families, others are married, some have successful businesses and are doing amazing things in the community, and some are, of course, still doing the same things we used to do back in high school. What an odd time to be alive.
I know I’ve accomplished a lot for my age and 18 year old me would be screaming with excitement at this point but I still have the feeling that time is ticking and I need to get on with everything! For the past three weeks I’ve been thinking more about what I need to do rather than what I’ve already done. It’s been a constant battle between - How old will I be when I have kids? I don’t want to be an old mom. When will I get married? But I want to travel more before I create a family. Where will I find time to do all this AND have a fashion business? When I going to fully be emerged into my career? Oh the anxiety.
In a world full of different opinions and a constant reminder of what everyone else is doing (social media), it’s easy to get discouraged about your own journey. It doesn’t matter if you have everything together because the illusion of a perfect life doesn’t exist. I was trying to give myself a scheduled time for all these events that are supposed to come naturally, simply because of what I saw others experiencing around me. Once I calmed down, I realized that you really have to just sit back and trust the process. Everything happens for a reason and when the time comes, it will come. What you think you’re ready for now, you may not be and that’s exactly why it hasn’t happened yet. Ideally, nobody is ahead or behind anyone when it comes to life. Everyone’s different and where we are right now is exactly where we’re supposed to be at that given time, don’t question it.
January has started of as one hell of a ride for many reasons. I went into this year with so many to-do lists, affirmations and a color-coded, monthly goals overview. I wanted to go into the new year as perfectly as I could but life happens.
The problems didn’t occur with me as a person but hit on a personal level. The people that I love and care for went through things that couldn’t understand nor relate to. Being the eldest sibling, you kind of have to be the one to fix all the problems and care for everyone as your own. It was disappointing because I was so keen on having everything super perfect this year that the slightest inconvenience literally pained me. After re-evaluating everything I took a step back to chill. It could be worse right?
Honestly, everyone needs to stop having this fixation on the perfect life. You can have all the money and riches in the world but things happen that is beyond anyone. I’m learning that things happen for a reason and life events happen the way they are intended to, regardless if we like the outcome or not. Don’t let a bad moment consume your positivity. Thank you, next January....2019 starts in February.
I brought in the new year with my amazing pieces from Femme Luxe Finery. I was extremely surprised at how fast my items were delivered to me just in time for the holidays and although this is a fast fashion brand, the items are very good quality. Honestly, they’ve provided one of the best customer services I’ve experienced and the staffs are the best babes, making you feel like we’ve all been friends for ages. Their jumpers and women's dresses range is everything - unique styles and patterns unlike the normal sweaters on every clothing site. My favourite item in my basket was the mocha chocolate midi dress I wore for New Years Eve, as it was sexy and super silky. (Now I want one in every colour!) I will definitely be supporting them again in the near future!
Sometimes I like to get out of the office or my home and complete my workload in a different setting. A change of scenery is always good for someone like me who gets easily distracted in familiar place such as my flat. The chain franchises that have been around for as long as I can remember will always have their clientele but the smaller, themed and up-in-coming cafes that tell a story are what we should be investing in.
Tea time is a must in the UK and its one of my favorite things so do since relocating here. Here are a few cafes that I have visited and loved in London so far! Enjoy!
1. Elan Cafe : Hans Crescent, London
2. Spectrum Cafe : Carnaby Street, London
Located in Carnaby Street, upstairs of the Spectrum store, this café is full of velvet goodness and neon lights. It’s basically their makeup brush collections created into a cute place for coffee. (If that makes sense!) They have a limited menu but the Instagramable space makes up for it! IG: @spectrumcollections
3. Crumbs & Doilies : Kingly Court, London
Although not an actual café, it’s the best way to bring the goodies back home to have your own tea time. They customized my lovely little cupcakes for my birthday last year and their creative team make the best cakes. They also offer a vegan selection as well!
4. Palm Vaults : Hackney, London
A bit far to travel from my place but was worth it. It has a tropical feel that reminds me of home, which is a nice touch. Lavender and blush, from the decor to the actual lattes. Their Instagram promotes positivity and equality which I love. IG: @palmvaults
5. Bru Harrow : Harrow, London
Rustic and vintage aesthetics all around. Definitely a homey atmosphere and the staff are so friendly. Apart from the normal hot drinks that are typically at a café, they have an impressive range of homemade gelatos. It’s in my neighbourhood and has become my favourite spot to do my work when I need to get out of the house. IG: @bru.uk
6. Saint Amyes : Connaught Street, London
Such a “Breakfast at Tiffany’s” vibe! Best place to go for the vintage Vogue and cotton candy lovers like myself. Created my two amazing sisters makes it better because....ahh girl power! I’d recommend the chai latte and cupcakes for sure. It’s located in a cute little neighbourhood that matches it’s quaint theme. IG: @saintamyes
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